Facebook has temporarily disabled its chat system because a bug allowed private conversations to be visible by others. I don’t think I share sensitive information on chats but the fact that my personal conversations could have been read is quite disturbing. There are other things that Facebook is doing that really bother me.
1. Not knowing where my friends are
Maybe I should receive a training on how to use the new Facebook because there are so many aspects I still haven’t understood.
Every time I click on the « friends » link, I get a page with suggestions instead of getting a list of all my friends. The only other options I get from this page are 1. friends with recent updates 2. statuses of some friends. I used to be able to get a complete friend list on the previous Facebook version. Now I have to perform a search on Facebook to find my own friends.
2. Being told who to befriend
Instead of showing those I know, Facebook keeps showing those I may know.
Let’s suppose for a minute that Facebook is trying to help by suggesting people that I could (or should?) befriend. Thank you for offering your help but if I turn it down why do you insist? Even though I click on the X (see picture) to turn off a suggestion, Facebook will eventually bring to mind the same suggestions over and over again.
I’m pretty sure the world’s biggest social media network could develop a function that would remember not to display rejected suggestions again. It looks like Facebook wants people to add more friends to their accounts as if these people were my real friends in real life. I don’t understand this obsession with having 3,000 friends on your account when more than half of them don’t even say « hi » when they meet you in the street.
I also wonder how is Facebook able to link me to individuals that are not even friends of my friends? Some users from their suggestions list are not in my address book and sometimes they are not even part of my network. How does Facebook know that I know them?..
3. Being told who to talk to
Sometimes on the sidebar, Facebook lets me know that I haven’t talked to one of my friends in a while. Then, I get suggestions like « Write on her wall ». But wait a minute. If some of my friends don’t talk to me, why should I?
Once more, I’m being told what to do and I don’t like receiving instructions from a website.
I’m always being told to contact friends that I absolutely don’t care about. This is how I manage relationships; I talk to people who talk to me. Real friends shouldn’t need reminders to talk to each other; it comes naturally. If it doesn’t, the relationship is fake.
4. Friend request bugs
On Wednesday, I received an invitation from somebody that I didn’t know. Since we had no friend in common either, I refused the invitation. However, Facebook kept showing the same annoying red icon that lets you know you have pending friends requests. I had to hit the « ignore » button twice in order for Facebook to remove the unwanted notification.
So far, so good. What really got on my nerves was the fact that after successfully refusing this friend request, I am told that this person never requested my friendship. Imagine the question marks popping above my head.
5. Ever-changing privacy settings
Every time Facebook modifies the structure of its site, privacy settings are reset and put back to default. I don’t understand the logic behind this rule. It took me a while to figure out to edit my settings and what I wanted to keep private. While most of my information can’t be seen, my articles and some pictures for example were deliberately left available for public view. When they’ll perform their next update, I’ll have to go back an personalize my security settings once more. What if I forget to do so?
I remember receiving and not reading a letter from Mark Zuckerberg about changes in security settings a while ago. Maybe I should have read. I don’t like the fact that I have to read instructions on how to manage something that should be used for fun. Now I’m stuck scanning other websites for safety tips on Facebook.
6. People who trash Facebook
This one will be hard to explain because the 5 previous points already put me in the « hater » category. But I’m not a hater, I care enough for Facebook to stick around and I don’t judge people who use Facebook as their personal diaries.
On the other hand, I don’t tolerate people who have closed their Facebook account and want you to feel guilty and irresponsible because you haven’t. Yes, there are dangers on Facebook. Yes, there are at least 5 other things that I don’t like about this network but there are also many things that Facebook makes possible.
I would have never written this article if I didn’t care about Facebook.